When we reach parenthood, much of our world shifts to focusing on our children. We make sure they’re safe and that their needs are met. We want what is best for them and want to help them excel.
Part of this includes helping our children build their self-esteem. No parent wants their child to struggle in this area. Viewing themselves as failures can lead to further adolescent and adult issues. They shouldn’t spend their childhood being stressed out and unhappy because they’re lacking in confidence.
So how can we help our children boost their confidence and build upon their self-esteem? Here are six helpful pointers that can be implemented right here and now.
1. Help Them Learn New Things
Every child’s main life objective is to learn new things. From the time they’re a baby, they’re constantly learning how to function in this world.
As children start to get older, each new learning opportunity provides another chance for them to increase their self-esteem. Help give them more opportunities. Expose them to new activities, teach them new skills, and help them realize their abilities.
2. Be a Good Role Model
One thing is for sure, our children are always watching our every move. They absorb our behaviors, attitudes, and actions.
Put your best effort forward and set a good example, even in routine tasks. They will learn to do the same and take pride in those efforts. This includes attitudes and conversation. Seeing you handle even the most mundane tasks confidently and proudly will instill this quality in them and give them more confidence going forward with larger tasks.
3. Give Honest and Non-Judgmental Praise
When praise isn’t earned or appropriate, your child is eventually going to pick up on that vibe. If that happens, it can have adverse effects on their self-esteem.
In light of an unsuccessful venture, avoid giving your child false and shallow praise. Instead, give them honest feedback that they did a great job and you’re proud of them. Praise for their efforts rather than the end result can take them much farther.
Additionally, avoid a harsh or critical tone that could be mistaken for judgement. A negative tone can lead to poor self-esteem and reduced motivation.
4. Allow Some Autonomy
Children grow up being very much aware of their place in the hierarchy of things. They spend a great deal of time trying to prove themselves and push against being told what to do.
We can help them by allowing them the chance to make their own choices within safe limits. Being able to have some independence is one way to boost their self-esteem.
It’s also helpful for children to make mistakes and learn from them. The next time this challenge presents itself, they’ll have the opportunity to make adjustments and find success. That success increases confidence.
5. Encourage Pursuit of Interests
All children have something that interests them. Be open-minded and encouraging for whatever this thing is.
As a parent, we can help guide them in becoming more successful in this passion or interest of theirs. Being able to start and complete their activity can provide a sense of accomplishment. This is applicable to even the simplest hobby. Encourage children to pursue the things they enjoy and are good at.
6. Consult with a Professional
Despite all our efforts, there are times we are going to fall short. Teaching confidence is not an easy task, and it’s even easier to miss the mark. When it comes to our children, that isn’t something to take a chance on.
Don’t take this as a fault of your own. Instead, turn it into an opportunity all around. If you’re struggling to build self-esteem in your child, give professional services a shot. We’re trained in additional ways that the average parent is not. Contact us to learn more about family therapy.
